Friday, May 30, 2014

To My Father... And those learning to live through trying circumstances...

I first read this piece two years ago when Lindi wrote it as her personal statement for university. She is a talented writer who bravely reveals depths of herself in her writing. Also a growing playwright, who has produced, directed, and acted in her own plays, and a poet, her writing is an important and powerful part of her and I’m grateful she shares it with the world. You can read more of her work on her own blog here: http://lindiwedhlakama.blogspot.com

That car had been in the family ever since I could remember. Its shock absorbers were close to non-existent, and the engine made a loud noise, but the noise lent me a familiar comfort as I sat quietly in the passenger seat as my father drove me home from boarding school.
“So did you write any tests this week?” my father asked for the third time in ten minutes.
I felt irritated as I replied, “You’ve just asked me that question!”
“And what did you just reply?” he earnestly inquired.
I glanced at him. He was no longer the sturdy family man I vaguely remembered from my childhood. He reminded me of an infant, and that angered me. He was supposed to take care of me, not the other way round.
“I said no,” I said. It was the easiest way to end the conversation. The image of a photograph of one of our family holidays in the past came into my mind. It was one of, a younger, radiant version of my father. He had a lovely smile. It was the smile of a man who had worked so hard that he had left his home in the rural areas of Zimbabwe having earned himself scholarships to study abroad. He had been humbled by many experiences in his life. He had fought for his country Zimbabwe in its liberation struggle; thereafter he had been imprisoned for fifteen years. The light in his eyes in the photo said that it was alright to go through such challenges in life, as they made an individual stronger.



Mr L.G Dhlakama


These thoughts of the past soothed my sour emotions. I smiled and looked at my father in the driver’s seat. He looked over at me and smiled, and then he said, “So my daughter, did you write any tests this week?” I decided that I would ignore him this time. Feeling slightly annoyed at my insolence, he began on one of his long lectures. I zoomed out.

 The world could never give me the reason why a strong and hard working family man like my father was suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. Ashamed of my rash behavior towards my father I brushed away my tears. I imagined how hard it was for him to wake up every day having forgotten a little more of his wonderful past. How hard it must be for the head of the family to sit all day at the table and reread old newspapers.

As the car came to a stop by an intersection my eyes caught those of a little girl. The little girl had no shoes on, yet the radiance in her eyes did not reflect the anguish her little feet must have been experiencing walking on the scorching pavement. The girl in the passenger seat waved at the girl with no shoes.  The little girl waved back.

As the car noisily continued on its journey, I thought how, perhaps life was not so bad. I noticed that my father’s lecture had ended unusually early.
“I got eighty percent for my literature essay, Dad” I quietly said.

The world was not too much of an evil place, but only for those who had the courage to dream past their present circumstances.


Lindiwe Dhlakama
(Upper 6, 2012)

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